Real Mom Rant #ADHD problems

I think I need to have a really good rant right now. 

I'm a little disgruntled over other parents that don't like my child because she is "too loud", or a "little hyper", or a little "over emotional". UGHHHHH

My Child has Attention deficit hyperactive disorder. She can not always control her emotions or her voice, and she sometimes forgets that people don't like it when you are really close to them. She has to be reminded to settle down and when someone tells her to stop, she doesn't always understand that means right now! She can't always control what spews out of her mouth, so sometimes yes she swears. Who the %&*# doesn't? 

Whats your child's excuse?

What gives these parents the right? Judgmental and ignorant. Don't know my child's creativity and compassion. So they don't let their children hang out with mine because she gets a little over whelming. I know she can be loud, I'm loud, your own child can be loud too, but do I say that so and so can't hang out with my child because they did something I didn't like? I don't know that child well enough to say, no. I get to know the child first before I make any decisions. And it has to be VERY bad behavior for me to say that no you can't hang out with so and so. I also give children second chances. Or they won't learn. And Nicole won't learn to be forgiving. 

I have to stay calm and chill when I see these parents at the school on a regular basis. Knowing what there "perfect angels" are doing behind their backs. Check your kids social media once and a while. Its like a whole different universe to these kids and they don't understand that what happens on social media can affect how people see them. 

Parents are too afraid of their children not liking them now a days, "facebook parents", can't get off their own social media long enough to spend time with their own children or see how they behave behind their backs. Also a lack of discipline from parents and authority figures in the school. Teachers are not even allowed to raise their voices too loud, or they are considered mean. Man it was a good day when the teacher only raised his or her voice. I mean I certainly don't want the paddle or dunce cap coming back but let the teachers have the ability to discipline a child. Send them to the office. Make children respect teachers and principals and counselors. Just their elders in general. You see it too often the complete disrespect this generation has toward their elders.

I'm getting off topic, I just get so mad when I hear from Nicole that another one of her friends can't hang out with her because that persons parents don't like her. Is that something you should really be saying to a child? Shouldn't the child be the one making these decisions? At least to a point? If you trust your child to walk home by themselves at 10 or 11 doesn't that mean they can make the decision as to who they can hang out with and decide for themselves if that person is a good fit for them? I mean if they are smoking or drinking or worse, then by all means cut them off, but because someone is a little loud? Or emotional. COME ON!!!!

But maybe I'm too old school for my own good. But it seems to have worked for my oldest daughter, so i'm not going to change my parenting. I let my children be who they are, I don't want to change them because they are a little loud. When you are loud, it means you will be heard. 

My oldest daughter has been the loudest one of her friends for as long as I can remember...She is also a glider pilot at 16 and second in command of her cadet squadron. She is applying to be valedictorian this year and has competed in speaking competitions. Loud is not a bad thing. People take notice when you are loud. And to me that is a good thing. 

When an ADHD child hears that they are being too something, they take that and make it 10 times worse than it is. So parents please stop being so judgmental. They are only children.  

Please tell me what frustrates you about other parents being judgmental or just plain ignorant when it comes to ADHD. 

Thanks for reading
Julia

Five tips for keeping an ADHD child's bedroom clean and tidy!

The dreaded "Get your room clean" is Nicole's worst phrase, and in this house it happens a lot.

Today she must have her room clean after school or no electronics for the evening. 


My husband has OCD, for cleaning, if you understand Obsessive Compulsion Disorder, you get that my husband has a hard time just leaving a messy room alone. Nicole can't just shut her door and it magically doesn't bother my husband. Knowing ADHD people have a hard time staying on task, and OCD people can not just "ignore" something that bothers them you can image dealing with the two of them. She gets frustrated and angry and the tears come. He gets frustrated and gets angry. More tears come. And I'm stuck in the middle. 


More than once I have just cleaned her room so that everyone can stay happy and comfortable. But I know that doesn't help her learn how to get simple jobs done.


If you struggle with your child to keep his or her messy room neat, tidy and organized read on for some helpful tips.


1- Take LOTS of breaks. Putting things into smaller task, for example, put away the small toys and then you can take a break (usually play on minecraft) for 15 minutes then we will tackle something else.

2- Do it before doing something really fun. Nicole knows that if she wants friends to come over she must have her room clean before hand. This reinforces the reward system as well, you can't do one thing with out first doing this.

3-Keep them on task. Stay in the room to keep reminding them what they are doing. Nicole has to be reminded constantly of what she is doing, or she gets distracted. She makes slime and this is the hardest one to deal with. She must play with each one before she puts it away. That makes putting away the slime a longer task. I'm constantly reminding her that she has to put them away and move onto something else. 

4- Set a time limit. Sometimes this works and sometimes it doesn't. If she is having a bad day she will feel over whelmed, and get frustrated quickly. But if there is a big reward at the end then it isn't too bad. This only works if her room is only untidy and not like a tornado went through it! ( Which happens more often than you would think...and very quickly at that)

5 Encourage and PRAISE. This is one of my favorites. In this day and age I think we all forget how good it feels to have a pat on the back for a job well done. Instead of negative remarks and yelling, praise for what was accomplished. A simple "Look at how far you have come so far, only a bit farther and you will be done." We all get frustrated but trying to stay calm and chill will go along way. It helps them stay calm and get the job done.

These five tips have saved my sanity on more than one occasion.

Hopefully these tips help you, even if your child isn't hyper, but just does not like to clean there room (I have one that loves it).

Comment below if you have additional tips to get that disaster they call a bedroom back to sparkling.

Hyper Child Introduction

      Hey my names Nicole. I'm 12 years old and I have ADHD (Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder) and anxiety. Me and my Mom decided to start this to help others with ADHD because its hard to deal with it I have lost friends and struggle in school and at home.







Today I'm starting this Blog as well as starting a new medication (Biphentin). I am feeling exited and I don't know if its really doing anything. But keep in mind this is my first day using them. I do think my heart is racing and I still fell antsy.

So its been 3 hours since I had the pill… still fell antsy not feeling any different with taking the pill but it is my first day.. 

              Why I switched

So I switched from my old pill because it made me angry and depressed, it changed me I was separating myself from my friends I was just yelling at all my friends for no reason. I lost my best friend, I lost myself but then I found someone who could see past my anger, Sadness and depression. She didn't care I was yelling at her she didn’t care I was sad she help me through that and I'm soooo happy that I found someone who cared to help me.

          Me without medication

So me without medication is like if you have coffee for the first time or a sugar high. I'm all over the place and I yell a lot and people think I'm to loud that’s why I lose friends. They don’t take the time to get to know me for me.

          Why I started the blog

The reason I started this Blog is because I know ADHD can be hard but if I could help someone at the end of the day I have done my job and let me tell you IT GETS BETTER

Thanks for reading
Bye

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School starts tomorrow!!! #ADHD problems

Today I'm going to be talking about school too because I'm starting Jr high tomorrow. Well I'm scared and exited. I feel its going to be hard for me to write because every time I try to write my hand takes over me. Its hard for me to explain, my hand itself gets fidgety so I can't hold the pencil or pen and it takes me FOREVER to write a paragraph. I can write now this blog is on a computer so I can get the words out better because I'm typing not writing. And I have to get my mom to edit everything, and double check it, because I don't have the patience for grammar. I think we are going to try grammarly for me(hopefully we can review it here and help someone else too)So I really do think school is going to be a challenge, I'm scared and excited I do know a couple of my teachers and my sister did go to this school, so that helps a little. And I have adaptations for me, like doodling, and taking breaks, and a fidget cube. Today we tried 2 pills. One pill did not do anything and we are going to be doing 2 pills from now on for a little bit and my mom is going to call the doctor that prescribed me my pills (biphentin) I don't think its going to help with school it does not feel like its helping right now. So my mom is going to try to email my teachers because this year I'm going to try a laptop for writing because I do think I will be able to write more because I have ADHD (Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder) my hand takes over me and i can't write, like I said before. I know some people have ADHD and deal with this as well so I would try a laptop. Also I am taking breaks every now and then and I  play minecraft during my breaks.

From Nicole
Bye